Loving me the way I am is sometimes difficult and this is the phase all of us go through in our lives. Low self-esteem and poor self image is the reason behind people looking for love elsewhere, not realising that no one is going to love you if you do not love yourself.
So, instead of looking for love externally, you should first begin with yourself i.e., with self love. A wise person once said that you can only be loved to the extent that you can love yourself. If you are able to accept and love yourself fully, you will draw to a person who can reflect those emotions back at you.
However, it is not always easy to love yourself as self-criticism; negative-self belief and self-judgment finds a way to infiltrate in your psyche keeping self-love at bay. One way to address low self-esteem is to indulge yourself in aromatherapy; the aromatic blends will not only boost your energy and esteem but will also uplift your spirit, giving you the playfulness of a child.
When I doubt myself, I slip into the sanctuary of my bathroom and take a quiet bath, light some candles, meditate to let go of all the troubling thoughts, fears and doubts and let them drift away as the fragrant essences evaporate from the surface of the water. I imagine that I am a goddess fully deserving of every love and adoration. I think about what I would like to happen to me next. I love rose and sandalwood on these occasions.
Essential oils have helped me love myself and I love to use rose, jasmine, lavender and ylang ylang to uplift my spirit whenever I feel low on confidence. However, the oils that I would recommend for men are clary sage, jasmine and sandalwood. Carry your favourite essential oil with you.
Anytime you feel low, take a drop on your palm, rub it and inhale deeply three times while reminding yourself that you are loved, you are wonderful and there is no one else like you in this world.
Another powerful technique for self-love is to tell the person in the mirror that you truly and genuinely love her/him. Every time I pass the mirror, I go back, give myself a loving look, pout my lips and go muuuuaaaahhhh with a loud kissing sound. I really works and how! It always makes me smile. Always remember, a confident person is a sensual person.
Feel beautiful from within, feel loved as there is no other person in this world like you. Live a life that truly shines, Be a diva be YOU!
Buy Dr. Kochhar’s new book Aromatherapy-A way of life to read more about love.